Welcome to #2015 – What are you adding, keeping and getting rid of?

As you welcome the change of a calendar year, you may also be reflecting on the changes that you want to make in your life.  Some question why you should wait until the calendar changes to make these changes. Honestly, I have no answer because I believe in constant self evaluation but it seems like January 1st is the perfect day for the big evaluation.

New Year 2015 formed from sparking digits over black background

Most of you who follow this blog have read about the Add, Keep, Get Rid Of list in the past.  Rather than making a bunch of promises or resolutions, take some time to consider:

What do I want to add to my life? Be intentional about some of the things that are missing.  You may not be able to make the change today but create a plan for the year that will allow you to integrate those changes into your routine so that it becomes a lifestyle change and not for the moment.  For me, I want to add sightseeing… Ok, I know that may sound a little crazy but I visit so many cities for a variety of reasons but I usually focus on the business of my trip and neglect carving out a few hours for myself to experience the city, even some familiar cities.  So I plan to become intentional about sightseeing when I travel.

What do I want to keep in my life? Not everything has to go.  Take some time to think about what is important to you, what do you want to preserve in your life.  I’m a firm believer in living your priorities.  This one requires that you think about your top three priorities and evaluate your resources – time and money.  Are you making the time commitment and using your financial resources to keep those priorities at the top of your list? It goes without saying that my ministry, being a mom, studying and building my business are at the top of my list.  Today, as I work on my budget for the upcoming year and evaluate my back to school schedule, I will be seeing ways to ensure those things are kept at the forefront so I don’t get caught up with busy work that isn’t important to me.

Finally, what do I want to get rid of?  Admit it.  We all have some habits that we need to get rid of.  Some of us have some people in our lives that we need to get rid of.  Think about those things and/or people that kept you from achieving your goals in the past, that prevented you from being the person you want to be.  As I get this seminary thing under control, I need to get rid of procrastination.  I want to be more proactive about reading, completing my assignments and writing my papers.  I got the job done last semester but I definitely see some areas for improvement.

Being the person you want to be, most importantly – the person God created you to be, is hard because it requires that you live at a higher standard than just existing and going through the motions.  However you choose to chart your course forward, be intentional about the type of life that you want to live.


Add, Keep and Remove for 2011

I’m not big on resolutions because they don’t seem to last very long.  Toward the end of December and into the first weeks of January, everyone seems so fired up about entering a new year.  There is so much conversation about how the new year is going to be great and all of the wonderful things that will happen once the calendar flips to a new page.

However, it seems that people fail to realize that the changing of the calendar year does not automatically signify a shift in your life.  The only changes that can occur in your life are the changes that you initiate.  I think many resolutions go unfulfilled because people assume that things are going to be different in the new year and when life continues as usual they become discouraged and revert to familiar patterns.  Sadly, this realization usually occurs before January ends and the remaining eleven months are filled with more of the same.

So, what do you do?  I have a self-evaluation system that I use… add, keep and remove.  I realize that any change I want to see in my life has to start with me but it’s not always necessary to “change” sometimes you just need to tweek a few things to make them work better.  Try this…

ADD –  this would be like your resolutions but think of 2-3 habits that you want to add in 2011.  Make sure the habits are things that you can easily integrate into what you are already doing.  If they are too radical then they may be hard to maintain long enough to get integrated into your daily routine.

*I’m adding a daily devotion book reading, at least 8 glasses of water per day and Saturday seminars once a month for my young adult ministry.

KEEP – there had to have been some things that worked well for you in 2010.  Take a minute to consider those habits and make sure they don’t get lost in the change.

*I’m keeping my relationship with God, dedicating quality time to my son (being present when we are doing things together) and traveling.

REMOVE – somethings that are good to you are not good for you.  There are some things that I wanted and got in 2010 that I knew had no place in my life.  However, many times we keep these things because we don’t want to go through the growing pains of change.  We even keep people in our lives that aren’t good for us because we are afraid of hurting their feelings when we know they don’t have our best interest at heart.

*I’m removing ignoring my health issues with hopes they will fix themselves, every cup of coffee after #2 and investing time in guys that I know I’m not that into.

Happy New Year!!!

Let’s focus our energy on being the best person that we can be every day of our life.  There is no need for resolutions just creating healthy habits that allow us to grow into the people we were created to be.

Success Secret #17

I was talking to a friend the other day and she was telling me about another friend that was having a problem.  We were concerned about this friend because her problem was of the magnitude that could make or break her.  It was further concerning because she has a daughter therefore she doesn’t have the luxury of dwelling on the problem because she needs to fix what is broken and keep it moving, for her daughter’s sake, if not for her own.

Success secret #17…. problems are like quick sand.  We all have problems.  One of the lessons that I have learned in life is that you can stand still and dwell on your problems or you can seek a solution and keep it moving. 

It’s just like standing in quick sand, you can stand there and be upset that you are stuck in the quick sand but while doing so, you are only going to seek deeper and deeper.  However, if you acknowledge that you are stuck, figure out how to get out and keep moving, you may find yourself sinking a little every now and again but for the most part, you are moving forward.

Don’t let your problems get you down.  You will never reach a point in your life where you have no problems so don’t strive for the impossible.  Look at your life like a puzzle and realize that at every turn you need to be looking for answers to solve the puzzle.