#GuestPost Finding the Perfect Holiday Gift

xmas gift 2The holidays, as happy as they can be, tend to be a stressful time of year. After all, on top of the normal obligations of daily life, there’s bound to be a slew of festivities to attend or prepare for. Between trimming the tree, baking cookies for Santa, and attending ugly sweater parties, things can get a little hectic. Top it all off with needing to find that perfect gift for your special someone and you’re likely to throw in the towel and curl up by the fire with a glass of eggnog. But finding just the right present for your significant other doesn’t have to be taxing. Take a peek at these fun (and easy!) ideas and before you know it, you’ll have that perfect gift checked off your list.

Something you can do together

Though you and your partner probably see each other quite often, devoting hours each day to just the two of you is unrealistic and often unattainable in today’s world, especially during the busy holiday season. But as Real Simple Magazine points out, getting enough couple time builds intimacy, opens communication, and strengthens your bond, all important factors for fostering a successful relationship.

A gift that allows you and your significant other to enjoy an activity together is two-fold in its purpose: carving out time for just the two of you to reconnect while doing something you wouldn’t usually do. Never got around to taking those ballroom dance lessons you always talked about? Have you always wanted to learn how to make a gourmet meal that would put a world-renowned chef to shame? Sign you and your partner up for a class that provides an exciting experience and a new skill you can learn together.

Something to enhance your love life

They say variety is the spice of life, and that couldn’t be truer than when it comes to how you and your partner spend your time between the sheets. The holidays are about family and togetherness, which often means you and your significant other struggle to get a moment alone. Give him a gift that you’ll both have fun with when you finally escape to the privacy of your bedroom. A special piece of lingerie is a great way to make any night with your other half feel even more memorable. For a holiday twist on things, Adam & Eve suggests donning a sexy Santa Claus-inspired outfit, sure to get both you and your partner in the festive spirit. With so many options designed specifically with couples in minds, a gift that will enhance your love life is sure to make the rare time you and your significant other have alone during the holiday season that much more amazing.

Something you can enjoy separately of one another

As noted before, spending time with your significant other is important. However, with life moving a mile a minute, it’s essential that you both have time alone in order to relax, recharge, and bring the best version of yourself to the relationship. According to Psychology Today, there are many physical and psychological benefits to spending time alone, including enhancing the quality of your relationships with others.

You and your sweetie may have a ton of common interests, but chances are there’s at least one thing he loves to do that you merely tolerate, and vice versa. So why not take advantage of your differences and gift him something he would enjoy—without you? Maybe that means setting up an afternoon of paintball for him and his friends, or surprising him with an hour-long rental of the car of his dreams. He’ll appreciate how much thought you put into the planning and you’ll appreciate the free time his golf trip gives you to settle in to a much-needed Netflix marathon. It’s a win-win!

When the idea of finding the perfect gift for the perfect person in your life seems a little too overwhelming, use these ideas as jumping off points to holiday present bliss. Whatever you choose doesn’t have to be complicated or filled to the brim with all the bells and whistles. As long as it’s given with love, your significant other is sure to love it, too.

Should you commit to someone who doesn’t want a commitment?

I know that sounds crazy…

The obvious answer is, heck no!

But.. (there’s always a but when we are trying to justify doing the illogical)…

What if you are seeing someone who says they don’t want a commitment but you think they are perfect for you? Everything about them crosses off on your ideal mate list EXCEPT they don’t want to be in a relationship.

When you are together, you do the things couples do.  You don’t THINK they are seeing anyone else but of course being in an uncommitted committed relationship prevents you from actually asking.  You even speak couple language – we, us, ours…

I mean when you consider all of that you would be crazy not to try to lock this person down.  Why keep searching when you’ve found your person? Right???

WRONG!!

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One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is falling in love with potential.  It’s not always the potential of what a person could become professionally but the potential of a relationship.  I have seen it so many times… A person thinks if they keep doing all the right things then eventually the other person will change their mind and decide to settle down.

Now you know that I am a self-proclaimed relationship expert so don’t take my advice and go break up with your boo thang but I would encourage you to consider what I am about to say…

If you are with someone and they tell you that they don’t want to commit… Believe them!

If you want to stay with them and do all the things that a committed person does with a person who isn’t committed to you, do it without expecting them to change.

If your relationship clock is ticking and you think you need to settle down right now, go find you someone who wants to settle down now too.  I know that means leaving your comfortable good thang but if having a commitment is that important to you, why are you leaving your future in the hands of someone who obviously doesn’t want the same thing as you?

Why Me???

He seems too good to be true… Like the kind of guy that women don’t think exist any more and here we are…

Doing the things that couples do, saying the things that couples say…

I look online and see so many women longing for what I have right before me yet they don’t think he exists…

But here HE is!

Of course, I should be jumping for joy.  I should be elated that he’s here with me but…

The looming question that I want to ask is… “Why me??”

Not to sound neurotic or crazy or mildly (definitely not extremely) insane but you know how you just want to know how out of the millions of choices… How did he pick me out of all of those choices?

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Every Super Woman Needs A Super Man

Although I’m not a Rick Ross fan (shocker), this song replays in my mind more often than I am actually comfortable admitting.  But after reading the lyrics – http://www.metrolyrics.com/here-i-am-lyrics-rick-ross.html – I realized that it’s not the song but the concept that every super woman needs a super man that has stuck with me.

As a self-proclaimed super woman – minister, author, mom, entrepreneur, community person – I definitely need a super man in my life.

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Yeah, I can say it… An ordinary man just won’t do for me.  I want someone who will match my drive in business, someone who is intentional about investing time in his family, who wants to make a difference in his community AND who makes time for his relationship with God.  Sounds like a lot? It is… hence the need for a super man.

I have noticed that a lot of people, not just men OR women, are complacent in life.  And so many more are living their dreams through social media.  They post about these uptopic situations but off-line aren’t doing anything to achieve the dreams they constantly promote.

I can’t be the only one who has noticed this.

With social media being the consistent point of reference many of us have for getting to know a person, we often see people living these super lives online and then you meet for dinner and actually start discussing life, goals and all that other important stuff only to find out that its all a dream.  I’m not here to down the dreamers of the world but some people need the doers, the ones who aren’t afraid to leap from a tall building to start a business or to rush into traffic to get to their kids’ school on time.

So… what’s so great about super people being together?  Being super is hard work!  If you’re not with an overachiever, then you have someone in your ear saying, you don’t have to do all that, they’re meeting AGAIN, you’re doing too much when you really want to hear that everything is going to be ok, I’ve got the kids tonight, don’t pay any attention to the naysayers because you’ve got this.  Super people can come home, take off their capes, remove the masks and let the insecurities hang out without fear of losing their super status.

I love the Marvel superheros but it always makes me kinda sad toward the end when they break up with their love interest at the end of the movie.  These break ups happen because they know that super people and ordinary people can’t work.  Dang, isn’t that harsh??? But think about it… Wouldn’t it be hard to commit to someone who is at home vegging out on reality tv while you’re trying to save the world?

Anyway, that’s my two cents… What do you think? Can a super woman/man find happily ever after with a mere mortal?

 

[Book Preview] Celebrating the Journey: Rediscovering Me by Ashley Hill

Yes, you read it correctly… it is a book preview and not book review

Recently, I had the pleasure of speaking on the phone with Ashley and she was telling me about her soon to be released book and I was so excited that I had to share it with you all… BEFORE it was released.

In “Celebrating the Journey: Rediscovering Me”, Ashley tells a story that is very familiar to many women.  She tells about how she grew up knowing all the things she could become, all of the things that she was capable of but how one relationship with the wrong person derailed her from becoming the person God created her to be and the person she wanted to be.  Ashley bravely shares her story of how this relationship affected her and how she got back on track because she knows that there are women today in the same situation.  She believes that if she can find her way out then maybe this book will inspire you to find your way out also (now do you see why I was so excited??).

The book launch is scheduled for June 2012…

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Ladies, it’s ok to think like a man…

I know some of you ladies won’t agree with me on this but I think that its ok for us to think like a man…

Some of the arguments that I have heard against this statement are…

  • I don’t need to think like a man, I need to think like God…
  • If I was meant to think like a man then I would have been created a man…
  • I don’t need to think like a man, a man should think like me…

Here is my opinion…

Many of you have heard of Steve Harvey’s book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man“.  Some of you have read the book while others may have only seen the movie.  Regardless of your opinion about his opinion on the subject, you must realize that one of the keys to communicating in any relationship or situation is your ability to understand the other person’s perspective.  If you go into every situation expecting to be understood but having no desire to understand then don’t be surprised when there is a breakdown in communication.

I believe that men and women process information differently and this theory has been tested, written about and discussed for years.  No matter our communication styles, we all expect to be heard, respected and understood.  When a lady thinks like a man,  she is taking into consideration that if she presents him with a problem; unlike her girlfriend who won’t mind chatting for hours about the single subject, he will more than likely be seeking a solution.  She also takes into consideration that most men don’t read emotions very well, they believe you when you say that nothing is wrong.

Thinking like a man doesn’t mean that you stop being a woman or throw your religious values out the door but it means that when you communicate, you are thinking of not only your side but also his.  In a successful relationship, he will also be trying to think like you so that he can understand, respect and hear what you are saying…

Jasmine Powers gives us the dish on the upcoming Love & Beauty Unconference

You guys know that I am super nosey and/or quite curious…

I also love people who think outside of the box and aren’t afraid to try and do things in ways that others aren’t.  After all, there isn’t that much originality left so when someone finds it, I like to embrace it.

Enter Jasmine Powers… She reminds me of one of those people who can put on anything with her sassy attitude and no one will say a word except, “dang, there’s something special about her.”  Although Jasmine is involved in a million projects, she’s coming on The LaKesha Womack Show to discuss the upcoming Love & Beauty Unconference.  Yeah, you read it right… the “unconference”.  I have no idea what that means and that’s why we are bringing Jasmine to the show to tell us all about it.

Tune in live on Thursday, April 12 at noon CST/ 1p EST (or you can always click the link and listen to the playback) —>> The LaKesha Womack Show

Don’t have access to a computer?  Call in from your phone (646.929.2031) and listen to our thirty minute conversation… it will feel like your eavesdropping without the fear of getting caught.

Get to know Jasmine…

Jasmine Powers is a dynamite digital marketing strategist and publicist, event planner for beauty and biz, blogging, and tech events, blogger and artsy girl with a flair for things colorful and bright. A business consultant to the stars and to clients whom she treats like royalty. You’ll find her not only writing copy, press releases and articles, but blogging for CulturedGirlsOnly.com her blog of all things creative including crafts, cuisine, and visual, literary, and performing arts. She writes about accessories at ThaHotness.com, she served as the 2012 Program Director for Blogging While Brown and is the Executive Director for Love & Beauty Unconference meet the bloggers event for beauty, relationship, and fashion bloggers and their readers. She resides in Los Angeles and enjoys reading, writing and creating.

Jasmine Powers
CEO
J Powers Marketing & Publicity     

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About the Unconference…

Natural Hair Parade is creating the UNCONFERENCE of the year bringing you what you need to upgrade your sexy.

Bloggers the world over in the fab world of beauty, fashion, and relationship blogging will participate in a hip, sexy and engaging event talking about subjects you WANT to talk about.

  • Showcasing the hottest lifestyle bloggers on the planet in makeup, natural hair, and fashion
  • Bringing the finest brothers on the block speaking about how to bring it as a gentleman and offering tips on how to win their hearts
  • Featuring some of the illest female writers and authors out there showing you how to keep it hot and what’s not
  • Daytime programming full of digital marketing and money making resource greatness
  • Breakout sessions, demonstrations and makeovers
  • Not just a ladies event, so fellas come out
  • Includes refreshments, spirits, exhibitors, speed dating and facilitated networking sessions.

In the City of Brotherly Love, you have to get to love and beauty. Our unconference will send you home hot like fire!