Ladies, it’s ok to think like a man…

I know some of you ladies won’t agree with me on this but I think that its ok for us to think like a man…

Some of the arguments that I have heard against this statement are…

  • I don’t need to think like a man, I need to think like God…
  • If I was meant to think like a man then I would have been created a man…
  • I don’t need to think like a man, a man should think like me…

Here is my opinion…

Many of you have heard of Steve Harvey’s book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man“.  Some of you have read the book while others may have only seen the movie.  Regardless of your opinion about his opinion on the subject, you must realize that one of the keys to communicating in any relationship or situation is your ability to understand the other person’s perspective.  If you go into every situation expecting to be understood but having no desire to understand then don’t be surprised when there is a breakdown in communication.

I believe that men and women process information differently and this theory has been tested, written about and discussed for years.  No matter our communication styles, we all expect to be heard, respected and understood.  When a lady thinks like a man,  she is taking into consideration that if she presents him with a problem; unlike her girlfriend who won’t mind chatting for hours about the single subject, he will more than likely be seeking a solution.  She also takes into consideration that most men don’t read emotions very well, they believe you when you say that nothing is wrong.

Thinking like a man doesn’t mean that you stop being a woman or throw your religious values out the door but it means that when you communicate, you are thinking of not only your side but also his.  In a successful relationship, he will also be trying to think like you so that he can understand, respect and hear what you are saying…

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Late Night with LaKesha discusses the difference between a man and a gentleman with The @ELGLifeCoach

You all know that I am an old-fashioned romantic.  Lately, I have been thinking about the difference between men and gentlemen.  Some people have commented that they don’t see a difference while others totally get where I’m going.  For me there is an obvious difference…

This week on Late Night with LaKesha we will have Personal Life Coach Ramone Bellagamba to discuss his views on the subject.  I am anxious to hear how a male views the role of men and gentlemen in our society but more specifically within relationships.  Tune in for another great show…

Join us on Tuesday, October 18 from 10p to 1030p CST

http://BlogTalkRadio.com/LaKeshaWomack

call in to listen live – 646-929-2031

Post your comments on the blogtalkradio show’s page, on this blog or tweet us ~ @LaKeshaWomack @ELGLifeCoach @ELGCoaching using #LWBTR

Meet Ramone…

Ramone Bellagamba is a Personal Life & Productivity Coach for Entrepreneurs at Executive Lifestyle Group, LLC which is a professional training company specializing in Life Coaching, Mentoring, and Public Speaking. As a Personal Life Coach his goal is to help clients “Transform their lives from ordinary to REMARKABLE”.  As a Productivity Coach Ramone assists stressed & overwhelmed entrepreneurs who want to increase their productivity and profits discover a process so they can build the business of their dreams, work smarter rather than harder and live a life with a lot less stress. Ramone received his undergraduate degree in Communication and Mass Media Arts from Clark Atlanta University, his Master of Science degree in Education from Long Island University and his professional life coaching certification from The American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He is also member of Christian Cultural Center, Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Incorporated, Toastmasters International and Five Hundred Men Making a Difference. An educator, life coach, mentor and public service enthusiast, Ramone is most proud of being a husband to his wife, Christina, and father to Taylor Joy Elise. The couple and their daughter currently reside in Brooklyn, NY.

Feel free to contact Ramone using any of the following mediums:

Email: Ramone@ executivelifestylegroup.com

About.Mehttp://about.me/Ramone_B

Twitter: @ELGLIFECOACH @ELGCOACHING

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/ExecutiveLifestyleGroup

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/ramoneb

Blog: http://lifelivewell.com/

Company Website: http://www.executivelifestylegroup.com/

Do good guys really finish last? 5 reasons women like bad boys

I have heard so many guys say that they think good guys or nice guys finish last.  In some instances, I have even seen this happen.  You know the guy that does all he can to make a woman happy but she leaves him for someone who could care less about her emotional, financial or sexual well-being. Is this SOP (standard operating practice) in dating or a perception?

If women are attracted to “bad boys”, why?  What makes her choose instability over the nice, safe guy that wants to treat her right?

I know you have your theories on both sides of the issues, so join me on Blog Talk Radio, tonight (March 8, 2011 at 10pm) for a lively discussion.

Here’s how you can participate – share your comments and questions via

  • Twitter – @LaKeshaWomack – during the show (between 945p and 1020p CST)
  • Call in to the show (646.929.2031) and request to speak with the hostess
  • Email me prior to the show – contact@LaKeshaWomack.com

Log on to listen online http://blogtalkradio.com/lakeshawomack or call 646.929.2031 and listen from your phone.

 

 

The Style Gent discusses The Lost Art of Dating

A while back I wrote an article about “The Lost Art of Dating” and since I began Late Night with LaKesha; I thought it would be a great subject to discuss and get the gentlemen’s view.

I am elated to have Twitter’s very popular, The Style Gent (TSG) as this week’s guest on the Blog Talk Radio show.  Once I began reading his Twitter posts, I was intrigued by the level of consciousness for personal actions that he is encouraging  men to take which, I believe, will help to improve relationships in our society.  You don’t want to miss this show because TSG will break down the difference between dating and courting and provide some tips to help improve communication among couples.

Don’t forget… we want to hear from you.

  • Tweet me (@LaKeshaWomack) your questions using #LNWL
  • Submit a comment or question below
  • Comment on the BlogTalkRadio homepage
  • Email me at contact@LaKeshaWomack.com

Join The Style Gent and I on Tuesday, November 30 at 10pm on http://blogtalkradio.com/lakeshawomack

About The Style Gent…

The Style Gent, believer in The Gentlemen's Movement

Vertical Thinker, Mental Clothier, Casual Blogger, Poet & Purveor of stylish tweets on being a fashionable, conscious, elevated male. I have managed in fashion retail for over 10 years. Managed luxury retail for 6 years.

Also, a contributor to 365daysofstyle.com‘s “Style Question Of The Week” and a believer in #TGM “The Gentlemen’s Movement”, a quiet revolution reminding men to focus their motivations on dressing from the inside out.

Style Is internal, what good is a new suit if the man inside is rotten?

Check him out online…

Do you want a boyfriend or a booty call?

It’s funny to  me how people sometimes confuse sex and relationships.  This is true for men and women.  Women tend to gravitate more toward wanting a relationship while men act as if they only want a booty call (you know those hit it and quit it types).

I had a friend that was really digging this guy, however he wasn’t quite feeling her the same way.  She got caught up in trying to make him want her, not sexually because that was done, but she wanted him to want her to be his girlfriend.  Sounds normal, right?  Well, the only problem is that she didn’t really want him to be her boyfriend.  She was just in it for the thrill of the chase.  It never worked because she wasn’t interested enough to follow through but it made me wonder… how many woman are in relationships that they wish were just booty calls?

On the flip side, I have a guy friend who really likes this female.  I think he could see himself marrying her, however he doesn’t want to put in the work to make her his girlfriend.  Easy enough… but it drives him crazy to think of her with someone else.  He expects the little bit of time and sex that he gives her to be enough to keep her on the hook.  I hate to tell him but it isn’t and it is almost a guarantee that she is getting her emotional fulfillment elsewhere.  Sadly, his game isn’t as tight as he would like to believe because she has snowed into thinking that he is the only one.  Makes you wonder how many other dudes are secretly wishing for a relationship but settling for a booty call?

How do you know if you want a relationship instead of booty call?

  • You enjoy having conversations with the person and look forward to your next opportunity to talk to them
  • You want to go out in public (on dates) with the person
  • You feel comfortable introducing them to people in your life
  • When you are in public, you have the urge to hold their hand or show some sign of PDA (public display of affection)
  • You have non-sexual thoughts about them at sporadic points during the day
  • You look forward to their calls and/or text messages during the day
  • When  planning an activity, they are the first person to come to mind

I hate to be the one to point out the obvious but if you have the opposite feelings for the person, you probably just want a booty call.

  • You don’t really enjoy talking to them and avoid conversations at all costs
  • You make sure to call them late enough that going out is not an option
  • You have absolutely no intentions of letting anyone know that you are involved with this person
  • If you go out in public, you make sure to keep your distance so that no one thinks you are together
  • You rarely think of them during the day, except to wonder if you will see them later that night
  • You avoid their phone calls and text messages until you are ready to schedule some “quality” time
  • They are the last person to come to mind when planning an activity

The measure of a man

I spent most of Father’s Day trying to think of something clever to write in honor of fathers throughout the world.  Wow, that task sounds daunting to even think about.  I then tried to think of something profound to say about my own father and our relationship.  I realized that I am a little to private to reveal such details.  My next thought was to write about my relationship with my son’s father and I quickly decided that wasn’t a good idea, at all.  Needless to say, I didn’t post anything about Father’s Day and instead took my son to the beach.

The day reserved for fathers was filled with many emotions and I can blame Twitter for many of them.  One of the great joys of active tweeting is being a part of so many conversations with a multitude of different people.  This year was the first time that I was able to really observe some of the other Father’s Day experiences that have always been happening around the world.  The experiences ranged from young women commending their fathers for setting the bar so high in their future relationships to young men who never knew their fathers but thanking them anyway for their sperm donations to those who celebrated single mom’s for doing double duty as mother and father.

As I continued my reflections and enjoyed a beautiful sunset on Gulf Breeze (AL) beach, a thought stuck in my head… what is the measure of man?

The Measure of a Man

The measure of a man is not in what he buys or supplies but his value of those things unseen, unsaid and untouched

The measure of a man is not in what he drives or wears but his character, pride and ability to respect those around him

The measure of a man is not in his ability to fertilize a garden but his desire to tend the land and cherish it’s fruits

The measure of a man is not determined by society’s worth on his life but his own self-confidence, self-esteem and self-respect

The measure of a man is not in his street cred but the life he lives in the streets and behind closed doors

The measure of a man does not begin once he becomes a father or husband but will be tallied as a culmination of all his life’s experiences

There are many fathers, brothers, uncles, cousins, etc who are helping each of us to become the people that we are today.  Don’t place them on mortal pedastals nor condemn their actions when not meeting your standards because we are all in this world doing the best that we can…

A saint is just a sinner who fell down and got up.

Spring wardrobe updates for men and women

Not everyone can afford to go out and buy a new wardrobe with the change of season.  Use these five tips to update your wardrobe without breaking your budget.

For women…

  1. Lighten your make-up.  The smoky look is great but it’s also nice to wear a natural look with glossy lips.  It makes you look young and fresh.
  2. Put the pants away.  Spring equals dresses and skirts in my world.  If you prefer wearing pants, opt for a Capri with a dressy wedge or a knee length short with slingbacks.  Unless you work in a corporate environment, capris and knee length shorts can be paired with a button down and light blazer for a professional look.
  3. Don’t be afraid of looking like a girl. Flowers and pastels are not your worst enemy.  You don’t have to wear them every day but they can inspire a breath of fresh air into your wardrobe.
  4. Black, white and… There are so many bright colors that look great with your basic black and white pieces.  Choose tops and/or accessories in vibrant colors like bright yellow, hot pink and royal blue. 
  5. Get grounded and invest in a pair of flat sandals.  They look great with everything from spring skirts to loose fitting rompers.  Enjoy the journey of checking out all of the different styles until you find the pair that screams out your name.

For men…

  1. Lighten your tie.  Put away your dark ties and pull out the lighter ones to brighten up those black and navy suits.
  2. Toe rules.  There is nothing gay about getting a pedicure unless you are getting acrylic tips or colored nail polish on your toe nails.  Otherwise, a pedicure is essential if you have any intentions of showing your feet in a public place.
  3. Roll your sleeves up.  I know you guys enjoyed the button downs and sweater vests through fall and winter.  You can still wear those button downs casually.  Roll your sleeves up to about your elbow, pair them with jeans or cargos and your favorite street sneakers; you are ready for a casual outing.
  4. Restock your tees.  Pants are a staple in a man’s wardrobe.  It is worth it for you to invest in good pants because their fit is essential to your look.  Tops, on the other hand, are less expensive and can give your classic bottoms a trendy look. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and try a few shirts in colors or styles that you might not usually like.
  5. The best accessory that a man can sport is a good haircut.  There is absolutely positively no excuse for a man not to keep his hair looking right.  Women go through fifty times as much to keep their do looking fresh; the least you can do is get a regular haircut.