Welcome to #2015 – What are you adding, keeping and getting rid of?

As you welcome the change of a calendar year, you may also be reflecting on the changes that you want to make in your life.  Some question why you should wait until the calendar changes to make these changes. Honestly, I have no answer because I believe in constant self evaluation but it seems like January 1st is the perfect day for the big evaluation.

New Year 2015 formed from sparking digits over black background

Most of you who follow this blog have read about the Add, Keep, Get Rid Of list in the past.  Rather than making a bunch of promises or resolutions, take some time to consider:

What do I want to add to my life? Be intentional about some of the things that are missing.  You may not be able to make the change today but create a plan for the year that will allow you to integrate those changes into your routine so that it becomes a lifestyle change and not for the moment.  For me, I want to add sightseeing… Ok, I know that may sound a little crazy but I visit so many cities for a variety of reasons but I usually focus on the business of my trip and neglect carving out a few hours for myself to experience the city, even some familiar cities.  So I plan to become intentional about sightseeing when I travel.

What do I want to keep in my life? Not everything has to go.  Take some time to think about what is important to you, what do you want to preserve in your life.  I’m a firm believer in living your priorities.  This one requires that you think about your top three priorities and evaluate your resources – time and money.  Are you making the time commitment and using your financial resources to keep those priorities at the top of your list? It goes without saying that my ministry, being a mom, studying and building my business are at the top of my list.  Today, as I work on my budget for the upcoming year and evaluate my back to school schedule, I will be seeing ways to ensure those things are kept at the forefront so I don’t get caught up with busy work that isn’t important to me.

Finally, what do I want to get rid of?  Admit it.  We all have some habits that we need to get rid of.  Some of us have some people in our lives that we need to get rid of.  Think about those things and/or people that kept you from achieving your goals in the past, that prevented you from being the person you want to be.  As I get this seminary thing under control, I need to get rid of procrastination.  I want to be more proactive about reading, completing my assignments and writing my papers.  I got the job done last semester but I definitely see some areas for improvement.

Being the person you want to be, most importantly – the person God created you to be, is hard because it requires that you live at a higher standard than just existing and going through the motions.  However you choose to chart your course forward, be intentional about the type of life that you want to live.


Follow Kimberlee’s My Money Matters Journey: Week 1

I am so grateful to all of the people purchasing My Money Matters workbooks and to the groups that are inviting me to their meetings to host My Money Matters Workshops!

A couple of weeks ago, I received a special surprise.  A fellow blogger, avid reader and friend posted on Instagram that not only had she ordered the workbook but she is also planning to blog about her journey through the 52 week program.

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Take some time to meet Kimberlee Stevens and check out week one of her journey – My Money Matters: Week 1

You can also check out the YouTube videos to hear me discuss tips for your money matters – My Money Matters Video Series

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Do you have permission to fly?

My son has had the movie “Rio” playing continuously today.  As I have been working, I have been listening to portions of the movie.  Although I have seen it in its entirety, today a concept from this movie stuck in my head.

“Did Blu deny himself permission to fly because he was too content being grounded?”

For everyone who has seen the movie, you have some idea of what I’m talking about.  If you haven’t seen it, it chronicles the journey of a Blue McCall, appropriately named Blu, who goes to Rio de Janeiro to mate with another Blue McCall.  Blu has been living with his owner in what seems to be a quaint little town.  She has provided for his every need despite him living in a cage, which he easily opens and closes on his own.  The female that he is supposed to mate with,  Jewel, grew up in the wild having to fend for herself and tries to escape captivity at every turn.

Although Blu and Jewel look alike, they have very different pasts and experiences that have shaped who they are today.  Jewel assumes that because Blu looks like her that he too wants to be free and will be able to fly away at their first opportunity.  However, this is not the case and Blu longs to return to his cage.

This made me wonder how many people assume that because others look like them that they must be like them… How many of us discount the experiences of others because they may not look like what someone who we assume has had that experience should look like… Think about the battered woman who never shows any bruises… The drug addict with no obvious signs of their addiction…

It also made me wonder how many of us are so content with being grounded until we haven’t given ourselves permission to fly.  We have found a peaceful existence and although we know what we are capable of achieving, we have settled for what is safe and comfortable.

I saw a quote that stated…

Good things don’t come to those who wait, Good things come to those who work for it!

As we begin a new year, my social media timelines are filled with people claiming greatness in this new year. They see an abundance of blessings and good fortune coming their way.  Yet, I wonder if they have given themselves permission to stop doing what they have always done so that they can start doing something new that will open the gateway to their abundance.  I wholeheartedly believe that my blessings come from God, however, I believe that God has given me permission to soar but I have to give myself permission to get off the ground.

Many of us have become so accustomed to being grounded, to the safe lives that we lead until we don’t step outside of that safety, we don’t step out on faith to reach for the abundance that we claim.  The first time Blu thought about trying to fly, he had a book with instructions on aerodynamics, after reading the directions, he took off and FELL DOWN!  It took a while for him to try to fly again because he assumed that after trying once, it wasn’t meant to be.

There may be something that you want in your life that you have read about, tried once and failed then vowed that it wasn’t meant to be.  Let me hip you to one of my Success Secrets… Nothing worth having comes easy.  Maybe a few things, but don’t expect it to be easy, challenge yourself to become better, stronger and fit for the achievement.  Despite the successes that you may see from me through my social profiles, there are at least five times that I have fallen down to get to that point.  The difference is that no matter how many times I hit the ground, I remember how great it felt in the clouds and I push myself to get up and try to fly again.

My challenge to you…


Image of Jewel from "Rio" courtesy of fanpop.com

Image of Jewel from “Rio” courtesy of fanpop.com

And yes, in the end, Blu does learn to fly and he realizes what he was missing by not giving himself permission to fly…


Confession: My Greatest Fear

There are so many things in our world to fear – heights, flying, spiders, unmasked gunmen, the end of the world… The list goes on and on but as I embark on another project (yes, another project) I started thinking about my greatest fear.

So, I’m working on putting this thing together and my mind slipped to

What are people going to think?

Will they like it?

Will they get it?

Will they support it?

Yeah, that list can go on and on but then it hit me, my greatest fear…

I fear not trying more than I fear failure.  I fear being eighty years old wondering what if I had tried this or what if I had tried that… I have had so many great experiences that some people might look at and wonder what the point of it was but every thing that I have tried has taught me something that made me better for something that came next.  As much as I want to be accepted by others, I want to make myself proud more.  I’m not fearless and negative self talk holds me back from doing a lot of things but when I have a vision and I can see it clearly then I feel compelled to create a plan and go for it.

When working with my clients, I often encourage them to push forward when they have a great idea (if it’s feasible and fits within their overall brand).  Some people may look at the things that they are doing and think that its never going to work or that they are wasting their time.  But, how can you look at some one else’s dream and determine it’s worth?

Today, I can say that I’m proud of myself for trying… I don’t know exactly what success looks like but I know that it feels good knowing that I have the power to turn off the outside noise, put on my headphones blasting some good music into my brain and get to work making my visions a reality!

Image courtesy of campus-to-career.com

Image courtesy of campus-to-career.com


What’s stopping you?


What is on your to do list that keeps getting put off? If its important to you, what’s stopping you from doing it? If its not that important, why torture yourself by pretending that it’s something that you want to do?
Most of us are extremely ambitious. We start each day, week, month and year with a laundry list of things that we want to accomplish. However, somewhere along the way we fail to accomplish many of our goals. It’s not because the task was so difficult but often because we never got started. The task may have seemed so overwhelming to us that we kept putting it off and putting it off until it just fell off the list.
Ask yourself if there is a goal that you really want to accomplish but haven’t even taken the first step toward it. What’s stopping you?

How badly do you want it?

The answer to this question will often determine whether you will get that thing you are wanting…

How badly do you want it?  How much work are you willing to put into getting it?  What are you willing to sacrifice to have it? Once you get it, are you willing to do what is necessary to keep it?

I know a lot of people who say they want a business but when confronted with the reality of making that dream come through, they spend more time on their excuses that execution.

I even hear people talk about wanting to be a relationship but they haven’t learned to compromise and communicate yet can’t understand why their lives are filled with chaos.

Let’s not even talk about having a relationship with God.  I see so many tweets and Facebook posts with clever sayings and scriptures but I often wonder how bad do these people really want a relationship with God?  Are they spending as much time reading and studying his word as they are posting it online?

Whatever you desire in life, it’s not enough to merely want it… you have to put some action, some work behind that desire.  The work that you are willing to invest into your dreams and goals will ultimately determine your success.  Most things in life worth having are worth working for and won’t come easy.

Road Work

How bad do you want to achieve your goals? How badly do you want to have a relationship with Mr./Ms. Right?  How crucial is it for you to have a relationship with God?

Do you want it enough to give up  something else in your life? Do you want it enough to stand firm when tested?  Do you want it bad enough to invest your most valuable resource – your time?

If you find that you are constantly falling short in achieving your goals… ask yourself, “how badly do I really want this?”

I usually get what I want because…

1. I’ve learned to put my goals in tune with God’s plan for my life. I try to focus on His will and living a life of purpose.
2. I don’t wait for other people to make things happen in my life. I realized a while ago that its not up to anyone else to achieve my goals for me.
3. I’m not afraid of failure. If I want something, I go for it. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I don’t sit around agonizing over what if’s.
4. I do the work. Once I set my sight on a goal, I focus on the activities to reach the goal more than the thing itself and before I know it… I’m there.
5. I know the difference between a need and a want…