Recently, I was conducting a workshop for a group of youth and the conversation turned to bullying and talking about people. We began discussing how they felt when they were picked on and reasons they picked on other people. Most of them said that it didn’t bother them but as we dug deeper, they began to acknowledge their true feelings about the things that their peers said about them. They even began to understand how their words might affect those around them.
I reached a realization, as well… Not many of us understand the power of our words. We use words so carelessly sometimes without realizing that those words are often replayed in the mind of the person they were spoken to, regardless of how many times you may apologize, you cannot take those words back.
You’re never going to be anything.
You’re clothes are ragged.
The kids admitted to saying some of these things in jest to their friends without realizing the power of their words. It is even more heart breaking to hear a parent say negative things to their children. Can you imagine your parent telling you that you won’t ever amount to anything? That is a reality that many children are living with.
Many people who have this negative playlist in their head are able to overcome… Overcome… overcoming anything is hard. When I think of overcoming, I think of a struggle, almost a battle within myself like the ultimate fight between good and evil. Who will prevail… the good thoughts that I want to have about myself or all of the negative things that people say about me?
Let us for a second imagine that our words have the power to heal…
Do you believe that your words having healing power?
No, I’m not talking about the ability to heal a physical ailment or to speak cancer out of someone’s body but you have the power to heal someone spiritually or emotionally. Imagine each day that you see a child, you tell that kid how great they are. Imagine every time you talk to your friend, you tell him/her that you know they are going to do something great in their life. Your positive words have the power to drown out some of the negative self-talk that many people hear as well as to take out of rotation some of the negative things that others have said.
You look beautiful.
You are amazing.
You are destined for greatness.
I see so many people posting affirmations on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest… a part of me wonders if they are posting to affirm others or if it’s an attempt to drown out some of the negative thoughts that are prevailing within their minds because sometimes you have to speak encouragement to yourself. You cannot always rely on someone else to do it for you. Sometimes you have to give your own words more power in your life than the words of others.
I left the kids with this challenge…
If your friends decided to clean house today and remove all of the people from their lives that were not lifting them up, being a blessing to them, encouraging them… Would you make the list?
Some of us need to ask the same thing. Are we being a blessing to those around us or are we bringing them down with our constant complaining, gossiping about others and negative comments about the world around us?
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