I’ve been dating this guy for about 6 months. We spend a lot of time together at my house and I love to cook for him and spend time with him. I wanted to go home with him for Thanksgiving to meet his family but he didn’t invite me. I kept hinting around about it but he ignored me. I think he knew that I was upset because I didn’t see him the whole week of Thanksgiving. He came back around after the weekend and acted like nothing happened. I’m still pissed but think that I should give him another chance. If he doesn’t invite me to meet his family for Christmas then we are breaking up. What do you think?
Wow… ummm…. well… first, its hard to judge a relationship based on a few sentences but I think there are some key questions that you should ask yourself about the relationship –
- You said that you all spend a lot of time together at your house. Do you all ever go out on dates or hang out with each other’s friends? If not, that may be a sign.
- Why were you hinting about him inviting you to meet his family instead of just coming out and asking him? Were you afraid of being rejected?
- Why didn’t you talk to him about it when he returned?
- Finally, what’s the rush? If you’ve only been seeing each other for six months, why is it so important for you to meet his family NOW?
I’m not a relationship expert but here is my amateur diagnosis. You know that the relationship isn’t everything that it should be and you want to meet his family as a way to validate your position in his life. He may not be interested because he doesn’t see the relationship as seriously as you do. Rather than making ultimatums, it seems like you all need to have a serious conversation about the relationship as a whole to make sure you are on the same page. Also, there may be some issues with his family that have nothing to do with you so don’t hinge the future of your relationship on meeting his family, especially within the first year. A missing link in your situation seems to be open communication.
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