For the past couple of weeks, that song by Ludacris (everyone who knows me, knows that I LOVE Ludacris) with Usher and Lil Jon, “Lovers and Friends” has been stuck in my head.
I have so many relationship theories and ideas why we have such a hard time finding the ONE but I think my biggest problem is that I don’t really want a lover, I just want a friend. It seems like when I meet a guy and think that I have found someone that I am going to enjoy getting to know, the pressure gets put on for me to decide whether we are going to be intimate or not. To make matters worse, it seems like guys expect you to WANT to give it up if they take you out or put the label “girlfriend” on you. I am usually more attracted to a guy who takes his time and allows me to make a move toward him rather than him being on full press. I guess this can seem frustrating because in the guy’s mind, he is probably thinking that he may never get it if it doesn’t happen NOW.
I like the idea in the title, Lovers and Friends. You can’t put so much focus on being my lover that you never get to know me or what I’m all about but then again, I guess as a guy you don’t want to get stuck in the friend zone either.
Hmmm… I wonder where the happy medium is? Maybe that’s the key to a successful relationship – finding the balance between being lovers and friends.
I’m not really sure who or what I’m looking for (Ludacris is a great start *fanning self*) but as he would say, “Sometime wanna be your lover sometime wanna be your friend, Sometime wanna hug hold hands slow dance while the record spins.” As for me, most of the time… I just wanna be friends.