The dangers of faking orgasms

As crazy as this may seem, I have heard women brag about faking orgasms.

When I hear these conversations, they instantly baffle me.  Don’t women know that faking orgasms is dangerous?

  • You are wasting your time and time is something that you can  never get back.  If you are not enjoying it and you are doing it to create a closer and more intimate relationship with your mate then you should ask yourself if your strategy is effective?  Allowing someone to enter your body just for the sake of being there really isn’t the best use of your time and it is not the most effective way to create closeness in a relationship.
  • You are creating a false sense of security in the relationship.  If your mate thinks he is making it do what it do and you are faking… OMG!! That is a recipe for disaster.  I can not count the number of times that I have known women who did this and as soon as the big argument comes… BOOM!! They throw it in his face and it hits him smack between the eyes like a hammer.  I flinch at the thought that initially crosses his mind but guess what… you are the fool because he was gettin’ off while you were faking.  So who really got played?
  • To truly enjoy intimacy, you must know yourself.  I am not advocate of “self-love” because it does it nothing for me but I also don’t leave my fate in anyone else’s hands, in any situation.  If you don’t know what you like and what it takes for you to receive pleasure then how can you expect someone else to know you better than you know yourself.  Intimacy is a two way street and you have to be willing to participate in the process and not expect someone else to handle the details.
  • You are killing your relationship (if it’s not a relationship, the probability that it will become a relationship is very slim).  The very act of faking in a relationship is an act of dishonesty.  If you are being dishonest in the bedroom and feel justified, what other areas of your relationship do you feel it’s ok to bend the rules and not tell the whole truth.  If you are not in an honest relationship with someone who wants you to receive as much pleasure as you should be giving, then the orgasm is the least of your problems.

I have no idea what prompted me to write this blog but the thought came to me and I decided to share… I should be writing about the dangers of free-style blogging lol

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4 thoughts on “The dangers of faking orgasms

  1. Robert says:

    It’s also a way of settling for less which can be, not just dangerous, but a dangerous pattern. You settle for less love, less of a man, less affection and before you know it you’re expecting less. You expect less, go after less, and receive less and then happiness becomes more and more out of reach for you.

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  2. Lakesha, loved the article, it touches on a topic that women in the sixties may have dealt with due to restrictions and fear of judgment by their mates…don’t have this problem however.

    Great feedback Robert, DEEP!

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  3. Michele says:

    I agree with you completely. You would not only be cheating yourself but your partner as well. If your relationship has progressed to the point of intimacy surely it can accept honesty. Robert has a valid point it only leads to settling for less.

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  4. I am so happy that you all saw where I was going with this and that it isn’t just about the sex. Many times we have issues in our relationship and believe that sex will cure it but sex is supposed to be an act of intimacy. If there is not true emotional bond, how can you make a deeper connection?

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