So… I have a relationship “issue”. No surprise if you have read any of my past relationship posts (lol).
However, I often wonder if my “issues” are creating problems that will prevent me from having a successful relationship. As I have been discussing my book, “Is She The ONE?” the question that is most asked to me is, “Are you the ONE?” Naturally, I believe that I am the ONE but the ONE for who is the question.
I believe that we are all the ONE for someone but the key is finding our ONE. So, back to my issue. I don’t like public relationships. I have never been the friend to always bring my boyfriends around my friends or to constantly update my status when I am in and out of relationships. In fact, when I am dating someone, I have no problem requesting that the relationship stay between the two of us.
I did not believe this was a problem until one guy requested that we take a picture together. My immediate reaction was, “NO!” I instantly had visions of our picture together on Facebook then everyone asking questions about the love in my life, we breaking up and me having to explain what went wrong. Yeah, it was easier to just stay away from picture taking. However, this caused a riff in our relationship. I was surprised. I didn’t think it was a big deal but apparently, it was. He seemed to think that I was ashamed of him and that was why I didn’t want to be photographed with him. Luckily, he was man enough to have the discussion with me and express his feelings but I began to wonder how many of my issues with public relationships had caused previous boyfriends to assume that I just wasn’t that into them.
When is the right time to take your relationship public? When do you begin to change your Facebook status from “single” to “in a relationship”? When do you start posting pictures of the two of you online and giving each other special shout outs? When do you introduce them to your friends and begin using the term boyfriend or girlfriend?