This is another one of those hard life lessons. I believe it is one of the reasons people have such hard times in relationships. They don’t realize that people don’t change. Sorry, had to give you the secret up front… Success Secret#14 ::: people don’t change.
When I say people don’t change, that doesn’t really mean that someone won’t ever grow but I am saying you have to learn to accept the possibility that they won’t ever do anything different than what they are doing today and be able to live with that. This lesson has helped me to deal with many situations because I start to think that someone may grow from an experience and they don’t. I find myself disappointed but I shouldn’t be because I should not expect anyone to be any more than they are at this point in their life and hope that they don’t expect any more of me.
Have you ever seen a pattern within one of your friends and a situation came up and you knew how they were going to act but you really tried to expect the best but they ended up doing exactly what you expected? It kind of hurt. Accepting that people don’t change is one of the best antidotes to that hurt. I have begun to expect that people will do what follows their natural tendencies. When they behave as I know they probably will rather than as I hope or wish them too, I don’t feel let down. I try to love people just as they are, wherever they are in life. Doing so allows me to celebrate their success and support them during times of difficulty because I have no expectations for anyone’s life other than wishing them all the best.